Thursday, 8 May 2014

New Parenting Book Teaches Adults Balance and Encourages Child-Independence

Don't let this book's title fool you. While Stephanie Woo is

the mother of twins-hence, her title, Raising Your Twins-this

book applies to raising any children, whether one or multiple.

Her real life parenting tips as well as advice on how to

maintain your relationship with your spouse (her husband even

chimes in with his own section on this topic) will give you

more than enough advice to keep you busy being a better

parent, part of which includes learning how not to be busy by

finding some time for yourself after you teach your children

how to entertain themselves.

Throughout the book, Stephanie uses her twin daughters, Brooke

and Mackenzie, as her primary examples, including numerous

photos of them demonstrating their skills at eating, their

playing with mobiles, and how she set up play and nap areas

for them. But Raising Your Twins is more than one mother's

parenting experiences. Stephanie comes from a family of

childcare educators. Her mother is a teacher of the Montessori

method, who operates five Montessori schools in Taiwan, and

Stephanie is herself AMI Montessori certified, so Stephanie

includes a lot of Montessori tips as well as her mother's own

tips about raising children.

What really amazed me about Raising Your Twins is the common

sense, outside of the box, and progressive thinking that

Stephanie displays in discussing how to raise her twins,

especially in terms of teaching them how to entertain

themselves.

Stephanie divides the book into various chapters, including:

Eating, Sleeping, Movement, and Keeping Babies Self-Occupied,

and then these chapters are divided into sections according to

the ages or development stages of children, such as 0-3

months, 3-10 months, or 11+ months, depending on the topic.

This division is useful because it allows parents to

anticipate their child's next stage. As a bonus, Stephanie

includes a shopping list at the end of each chapter so parents

will know what they will need to buy as their children get

older, covering the ages from birth to three years old.

All of the advice in this book is proven and tested. Stephanie

herself attests that "I experienced extraordinary results. My

girls started sleeping twelve hours a night by ten weeks old.

They are and have always been completely unafraid of water.

They were drinking out of a regular glass cup at eight months

and could eat entire meals by themselves by twelve months."

The aspect of Raising Your Twins that I found most remarkable

was its focus on helping children to become self-sufficient.

Stephanie points out that such self-sufficiency is the purpose

of the Montessori method, saying, "If we wanted to answer the

question, 'What Is Montessori?' in a single phrase, we might

look to the experience of Dr. Maria Montessori herself. One

day, as she was working with children, a child said to her,

'Help Me Do It Myself.' THAT is Montessori. A Montessori child

isn't just given fish; he is taught to fish." Stephanie goes

on to explain that some parents might not want to teach their

children to eat at such a young age because they figure in

time that children will learn on their own, but Stephanie

states:

"Personally, I don't want to be spoon-feeding my children till

they are six years old. I had children so I could enjoy them,

not so I might become their slave! And with twins, the point

is even more pertinent because there are two children, not

just one! Consequently, the attitude in our household is one

that encourages independence in every possible way."

One other point about self-sufficiency I appreciated was

Stephanie's focus on teaching children to be self-occupied.

Such self-occupation can be achieved through simple methods

such as you, the parent, changing the mobile in the child's

room every fifteen minutes or so to keep your child

entertained and give you fifteen minutes to yourself.

Stephanie has also learned how important it is not to

interrupt children during their playtime or when they are

engaged in any independent activity.

While I don't have children myself, I have watched plenty of

friends raise their children and I have babysat numerous hours

so I can see how effective the advice and methods in this book

are and how easily they can be implemented if a parent is

willing to put in the time and be consistent. A little extra

time now will free up time for a parent in the long run. More

importantly, it will help your children to become happier,

less dependent, raise their self-confidence, and make them

interested in continual learning as they grow older.

Raising Your Twins is a groundbreaking childcare book. I hope

for the sake of all parents that Stephanie continues to write

more books as her daughters grow older. She's already blogging

about her daughters as they grow up, capturing their

development in words and photos on a regular basis.

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